Month: February 2026

“God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble.” (James 4:6)

Narcissism exalts self, but God exalts humility. At its core, narcissism is the elevation of self above truth, above accountability, and often above God. Scripture warns us clearly: “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble” (James 4:6). Pride was the original sin that caused Lucifer to fall (Isaiah 14:12–15), and it is the same spirit that fractures marriages, families, churches, and nations today. Narcissism thrives where there is unchecked pride, manipulation, and a refusal to repent. But God’s way is different. God’s way is truth, humility, boundaries, and righteousness.

In 2 Timothy 3:1–5, Paul describes people in the last days as “lovers of themselves… proud… abusive… without self-control.” He does not instruct us to fix them. He says, “Have nothing to do with such people.” That is sobering. God does not call you to rescue someone who refuses conviction. He calls you to walk in wisdom. Proverbs 22:3 reminds us, “The prudent see danger and take refuge, but the simple keep going and pay the penalty.” Dealing with narcissism God’s way means recognizing fruit (Matthew 7:16), not clinging to potential. It means believing patterns, not promises.

Jesus Himself modeled boundaries. When the Pharisees tried to trap Him, He did not argue endlessly. When crowds sought Him only for miracles, He withdrew (Luke 5:16). When Herod wanted to see Him perform, He remained silent (Luke 23:9). Silence is not weakness. Withdrawal is not failure. Sometimes distance is obedience. Romans 12:18 says, “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.” Notice it does not say peace at any cost. Peace requires two willing hearts. Where there is manipulation and domination, peace may require separation.

God’s way to deal with narcissism is not retaliation, nor is it self-abandonment. It is truth in love (Ephesians 4:15), strong boundaries (Proverbs 4:23), and trust in divine justice. Romans 12:19 assures us, “Do not take revenge… for it is written: ‘Vengeance is Mine, says the Lord.’” You are not called to carry what God has promised to judge. Your assignment is to guard your heart, renew your mind (Romans 12:2), and remain rooted in Christ. Healing begins when you stop trying to change someone who refuses transformation and instead allow God to restore you.

Narcissism feeds on control. God invites surrender. Narcissism demands admiration. God calls for repentance. Narcissism distorts love. God defines love as patient, kind, not self-seeking (1 Corinthians 13:4–5). When you align with God’s definition, you will no longer confuse chaos with passion or control with protection. You will discern fruit. You will walk in wisdom. And you will remember that your identity is not found in surviving someone’s ego, but in belonging to Christ.

Closing Prayer

Father God,

We come before You asking for wisdom, discernment, and courage. Where pride has wounded us, heal us. Where manipulation has confused us, bring clarity. Teach us to recognize fruit, to set godly boundaries, and to walk in humility without becoming doormats. Guard our hearts from bitterness. Help us trust Your justice and not seek our own revenge. Restore what has been broken. Renew our minds with truth. Strengthen us to live in peace where possible and to step away when necessary. Above all, anchor our identity in You, not in the approval or control of others.

“Any Kingdom divided against itself is laid waste: and any city or house divided against itself will not stand.” Matthew 12:25

Division has always been one of the enemy’s most effective weapons. Rarely loud or dramatic at first, it begins subtly—through pride, offense, insecurity, miscommunication, or unhealed wounds. But once it takes root, it weakens people from the inside out.

Scripture gives us a powerful example. After the reign of King Solomon, Israel divided under Rehoboam and Jeroboam (1 Kings 12). What began as harsh leadership and pride turned into a fractured nation. The result was instability, spiritual compromise, false worship, and eventual captivity.

The enemy did not need to immediately destroy Israel from the outside. The division within made the nation vulnerable. And his strategy has not changed.

If Satan cannot stop God’s purpose, he will attempt to divide the people carrying it. He divides marriages. Ministries. Families. Churches. Friendships. Leadership teams. Because unity releases strength, but division drains it.

The book of Epistle of James warns us, “Where envy and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work” (James 3:16). Confusion is fertile ground for destruction. When unity fractures, clarity fades. When clarity fades, purpose weakens.

A Metaphor: The Cracked Foundation

Imagine a beautiful building with polished floors and strong walls. From the outside, it looks secure. But beneath the surface, small cracks form in the foundation. They seem minor. Harmless. Easy to ignore.

Over time, pressure widens those cracks. The weight of responsibility, stress, and external storms begin to expose what was already fractured within. Eventually, the structure collapses—not because the storm was too strong, but because the foundation was already compromised.

Division is that crack.

It often begins small: a misunderstanding, an unspoken hurt, a prideful decision, a refusal to listen. Left unaddressed, it widens. And when pressure comes, what was hidden becomes visible.

Jesus prayed in Gospel of John 17 that His followers would be one. Unity is not optional. It is strategic. Unity protects vision. It strengthens spiritual authority. It guards the purposes of God.

Before we blame external opposition, we must examine internal fractures. Where has pride replaced humility? Where has offense gone unresolved? Where has silence replaced honest conversation?

Division rarely announces itself loudly. It quietly erodes strength until collapse feels sudden—though it was gradual.

But there is hope.

Humility repairs cracks. Forgiveness seals fractures. Truth rebuilds foundations. Prayer restores alignment.

The enemy thrives on division. Heaven thrives on unity.

And a kingdom standing together—anchored in God—cannot be easily shaken.