Greater love has no man than this, than to lay down his life for a friend.” John 15:13.
When you truly know the LOVE of God, your life is transformed forever. God’s love is not just an emotional experience, it is a life-changing revelation that shifts our identity, self-worth, and how we relate to others throughout life. Unlike human love, which often comes with conditions and expectations, God’s love is unconditional, unwavering, and transformational.
When we compare Human’s Love to God’s Love the differences are immeasurable:
Human Love although (Conditional) are often based on feelings and circumstances but God’s Love (Unconditional) is Eternal and unchanging. (Jeremiah 31:3). Human love is given in exchange for something (approval, performance, beauty, or status) when God’s love is freely given, not earned (Ephesians 2:8-9). Human love can be withdrawn when disappointed or hurt but nothing can separate us from God’s love (Romans 8:38-39). Human love is often self-seeking or transactional, when God’s love is selfless, sacrificial, and pure (John 3:16). Human’s love can easily be broken by betrayal, failure, or imperfection, but the love of the Father remains even when we fail (2 Timothy 2:13). Human love often comes with strings attached, but God’s love is a firm foundation that cannot be shaken. When we embrace this truth, it transforms how we see ourselves and others.
God’s love is like the sun, constant, powerful, and sustaining. It gives warmth, light, and life, never ceasing to shine. Human love, on the other hand, is like a flashlight, it may work for a time, but it can run out of power, flicker, or be turned off. If we rely on human love alone, we will find ourselves in darkness when it fades. But if we live in the light of God’s love, we are never without His warmth, direction, or security. His love will always aluminate the path He has set before us.
When you know the true love of God, you won’t easily settle for counterfeit love, whether in relationships, friendships, or self-worth derived from human approval. Counterfeit love manipulates, controls, or demands something undeserving in return, while God’s love affirms, secures, and frees you to walk in the purpose He has ordained for your life.
The key to discerning real love from fake love is first understanding your identity in Christ: Here you will find your worth and realize you have always been more than enough.
1. You Are Deeply Loved. “See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God!” (1 John 3:…
2. You Are Chosen and Accepted. “He chose us in Him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in His sight.” (Ephesians 1:4).
3. You Are Valued. “You are precious in My eyes, and honored, and I love you.” (Isaiah 43:4).
4. You Are Complete in Christ. “For in Him you have been made complete.” (Colossians 2:1…
5. You Are Secure in His Love. I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness.” (Jeremiah 31:3).
When you root your identity in God’s love, you won’t chase after love that demands you to prove your worth, compromise your values, or tolerate mistreatment. Instead, you will recognize that true love reflects God’s character patient, kind, faithful, and sacrificial (1 Corinthians 13:4-7).
I learned that seeking validation, approval, and acceptance from others, only leads to a feeling of emptiness. But Scripture reminds us that our worth is found in who God says we are, not in the shifting opinions of others. We don’t need to prove ourselves to again love and acceptance. “By grace you have been saved, through faith it is the gift of God, not by works.” (Ephesians 2:8-9).
We don’t need to fear rejection: “Though my father and mother forsake me, the Lord will receive me.”(Psalm 27:10). Again, we should not be chasers of love. “We love because He first loved us.” (1 John 4:19). God’s love fills every void, heals past wounds, and prevents us from seeking fulfillment in the wrong places. When you live in the fullness of His love, you are free from the need to perform for approval, settle for less, or compromise your God-given identity.
Knowing God’s love is the foundation for a transformed life. It heals, secures, and empowers you to walk in confidence, knowing that you are fully known and fully loved and more than enough. You must get this deep down in your spirit. It protects you from counterfeit love, renews your sense of worth, and enables you to extend genuine love to others.
By anchoring yourself in God’s love, you will no longer seek from people what only God can provide. One day you’ll look back and truly realize, that the things you once worried about, today doesn’t even matter. Instead, you will live in the authentic overflow of His love, walking in joy, peace, and ultimately your God-given purpose!