Month: June 2024

Walking Wounded…

Healing from narcissistic abuse is a deeply personal journey that requires time, self-compassion, and often spiritual guidance. Scripture can offer profound comfort and direction as you navigate this path. Here’s a guide to healing from narcissistic abuse using healing scripture references.

Walking Wounded: Healing from Narcissistic Abuse

The first step in healing is acknowledging the pain and trauma inflicted by narcissistic abuse. It’s essential to recognize the hurt and validate your feelings. The Psalms provide a language for expressing pain and seeking God’s comfort in the process. “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” (Psalm 34:18, NIV) This verse reassures us that God is near, especially in our times of deep emotional distress.

Seek refuge in God “ I will say of the Lord, He is my refuge and my fortress. My God, in him, I will trust. Psalm 91:2. Finding solace in God’s presence can be a powerful step toward healing. When you feel overwhelmed, turn to Him for protection and peace. “The Lord is a refuge for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble.” (Psalm 9:9, NIV) Knowing that God is your refuge can bring a sense of safety and calm amid the turmoil.

Embrace God’s Love and Compassion as you work towards healing. Narcissistic abuse often distorts your perception of self-worth. You must trust the truth of God’s unconditional love and compassion for you and combat the lies that the enemy will try to bring against you. “The Lord appeared to us in the past, saying: ‘I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness.’” (Jeremiah 31:3, NIV) Let this scripture remind you of God’s unfailing love and kindness, which can help restore your self esteem and rebuild your confidence. You are more than enough, always have been.
It’s now time to move forward with a renewed sense of passion for your future. Ready? Let’s go!

Find Strength in God’s Promises during your healing journey. Focus on self care and your own well being. Healing from narcissistic abuse requires strength and resilience. Lean on God’s promises to sustain you during this process. “But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.” (Isaiah 40:31, NIV) This scripture provides hope that your strength will be renewed as you trust in God.

Forgive and Let Go! Forgiveness is a challenging but essential part of healing. It does not mean condoning the abuse but rather releasing the hold it has on you. When you reach this level of maturity, your healing is underway! Trust in God’s justice and let go of the desire for revenge. “Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.” (Romans 12:21, NIV) This verse encourages you to respond to hurt with goodness, helping to break the cycle of pain.

Rebuild Your Identity in Christ as you keep moving forward. Narcissistic abuse can shatter your sense of identity. Rebuild it by seeing yourself through God’s eyes. “So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.” (Genesis 1:27, NIV). Recognize that you are made in God’s image, inherently valuable and worthy of love.

Find Peace and Restoration in doing so you will become a beacon of hope and light for others on their journey to healing as well. Finally, seek God’s peace and restoration by spending time in His presence. Allow His healing presence to mend your wounds and bring you peace. “You make known to me the path of life. In thy presence is fullness of joy, at your right hand pleasures for evermore.” Psalm 16:11. Trust that God is actively working to heal your heart and restore your spirit. “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” (Psalm 147:3, NIV)

Healing from narcissistic abuse is a journey that requires time, support, and spiritual strength. By turning to scripture, you will find the comfort, guidance, and reassurance needed to walk this path. Remember, you are not alone—God is with you, offering His love, strength, and healing every step of the way!
“For we know all things work together for the good of those who love The Lord and are the called according to His purpose.” Romans 8:28.

EMBRACING SELF-FORGIVENESS

“Starting today, I will forget what’s gone, give thanks to God for what has remained and press forward; towards a much brighter future.” C. McDale

Life often teaches us lessons through experience, which sometimes come after making mistakes or facing difficult situations that we wish we could have learned much sooner. It’s a natural feeling when regret or frustration creeps in for not seeing things clearly earlier, but it’s crucial to remember that growth often comes from these very kinds of experiences. So be kind to yourself, along the way remember to set strong boundaries to prevent similar experiences from ever happening again.

1. Accept Your Humanity

Everyone makes mistakes. It’s part of being human. We are all imperfect, and our understanding evolves over time. Accepting this can be the first step towards self-forgiveness. The Bible reminds us that we are not alone in our imperfections: “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.” (Romans 3:23, NIV). This verse reassures us that imperfection is a shared human experience, and God’s grace is available to us all.

2. Reflect and Learn

During your time in meditation , try not to dwell on what you could have done differently, focus on what you have learned. Reflecting on your experiences can provide valuable insights into what you missed and help you avoid future pitfalls going forward. Look for warning signs, they are always there. Consider King David, who made significant mistakes but found his way back to God through repentance and reflection. “Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.” (Psalm 139:23-24, NIV). David’s prayer for God to search his heart can be a model for us. By inviting God’s guidance, we can gain wisdom from our past and live a life worthy of God’s promises for the future. “For I know the plans I have for you, “declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not harm you, to give you a future and a hope.” Jeremiah 29:11.

3. Embrace God’s Forgiveness

Believing in God’s forgiveness is fundamental. When we confess our mistakes and seek His mercy, He is faithful to forgive us and through His grace we are able to find the inner healing we need . “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” (1 John 1:9, NIV) God’s forgiveness is complete and unconditional. By accepting His forgiveness, we are able to find the strength to forgive ourselves.

4. Move Forward with Hope

Let go of the past and focus on the future. Each new day is an opportunity to start afresh and apply the lessons you’ve learned. The Apostle Paul encourages us to forget what is behind and strive towards what is ahead: “Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 3:13-14, NIV)

Paul’s words inspire us to keep moving forward, focusing on our calling and the hope that lies ahead.

Forgiving yourself for not discerning earlier is a process. It involves accepting your humanity, reflecting on your experiences, embracing God’s forgiveness, and moving forward with hope. Remember, you are not alone. God walks with you, offering grace and guidance every step of the way!

Why It Cost To Manifest Your Purpose

“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.” Jeremiah 29:11.

Finding purpose in life involves discovering a sense of meaning, direction, and fulfillment that goes beyond mere existence. It’s about understanding why you are here, what values and goals matter to you, and how you can contribute to something greater than yourself. Purpose provides a framework for decision-making, shapes your priorities, and gives your life a meaningful context.

For many, purpose is closely tied to personal values, passions, and the impact they have on others. It’s a journey of self-discovery and aligning your actions with what truly matters to you. Whether it’s through relationships, work, creativity, or contributing to a cause, finding purpose often brings a sense of satisfaction and a deeper connection to the world around you.

Ultimately, the quest for purpose is a deeply individual and ongoing process. It’s not a destination but a continual exploration of what brings meaning to your life and how you can live authentically in accordance with those discoveries.

Several scriptures in the Bible discuss the concept of purpose. Here are a few:

  1. Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV): “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.”
  2. Proverbs 19:21 (NIV): “Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the LORD’s purpose that prevails.”
  3. Ephesians 2:10 (NIV): “For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.”
  4. Romans 8:28 (NIV): “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”
  5. Psalm 138:8 (NIV): “The LORD will fulfill his purpose for me; your steadfast love, O LORD, endures forever. Do not forsake the work of your hands.”

These verses convey the idea that God has a purpose for individuals and that trusting in Him leads to the fulfillment of that purpose.

Sarah, a devoted woman of faith, found herself enveloped in a moment of divine revelation. In the quiet solitude of her room, she felt an overwhelming sense of purpose as she read a passage in the Bible that seemed to leap off the pages and resonate within her spirit. It was as if God Himself had reached down and touched her heart, calling her to a sacred mission in the ministry. The call was both an honor and a weighty responsibility, but Sarah embraced it with humility and determination. She understood that this divine summons marked a turning point in her life, a path uniquely crafted for her to serve and make a meaningful impact on the lives of others.

As Sarah embarked on this new journey, she faced challenges and uncertainties, but her faith served as a steadfast anchor. She spent time in prayer, seeking guidance and wisdom to fulfill the purpose God had placed upon her. Supported by a community of believers, Sarah began to share her testimony, offer comfort to those in need, and contribute her talents to the work of the ministry. Through her compassionate spirit and unwavering commitment, Sarah not only found fulfillment in answering God’s call but also became a source of inspiration for others seeking their own divine purpose in the grand tapestry of the ministry.